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How many of you out there are praying for a mate? You’re seeking God patiently, or maybe impatiently, waiting for God to answer you. So what do you do from a spiritual standpoint while you’re waiting? What do you do from a natural standpoint while you’re waiting? I’m glad you asked. Let’s explore some options.
Just know that you can be single, but not alone or lonely. In your single state, this is a perfect time to develop that vertical relationship with God so that when it is time to develop that horizontal relationship with a mate, you’re ready. Single believers should be even more committed to God because there is not another person close to them in their lives that they have to attend to. This is a perfect time to spend more time in prayer, reading and studying the word, seeking the face of God regarding the ministry of helping others, pursuing the idea you had for going to Bible College, etc. Whatever it is, I hope you get my point. Throw yourself into, saturate yourself, and consume yourself with whatever God leads you to do for Kingdom building.
Single in the Bible means to be unique, to be whole. Consider Adam as an example. When God created Adam, his first task was to be consumed with caring for the things of God, tending the garden, naming the animals, etc. Genesis 2:15 (AMP). “And the Lord God took the man and put him in the Garden of Eden to tend and guard and keep it.” Now in order for Adam to properly tend to the things of God he had to first, be committed. God is a God of order. So, secondly, Adam had to follow the plan that God had established for the care of the garden and animals.
In your single state, establish in your heart that you are going to be a Godly person. Determine to please God and not man. Proverbs 16:9 (AMP) “A man’s mind plans his way, but the Lord direct his steps and make them sure.” We are complete in our relationship with God and don’t need another person to be made complete. How do we define complete: Having all necessary or normal parts, nothing missing nothing lacking. Colossians 2:10(KJV) says, “And ye are complete in Him, which is the head of all principality and power.” Our purpose here is to glorify God with our lives and as a single person you are in a perfect position to care for the things of God. Society has given us a distorted view of singleness. It is viewed as a problem, particularly when you reach a certain age and you are not married. Do not be persuaded by the thoughts of a temporal existence.
God saw that Adam was alone and said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” Genesis 2:18a (KJV). Read your Bible. Adam did not ask God for a wife. Let’s examine this a bit further. The Amplified version of Genesis 2:18 in the Bible explains it this way; “Now the Lord God said, It is not good (sufficient, satisfactory) that the man should be alone, I will make him a helper meet (suitable, adapted, and complimentary) for him.” The key words are suitable, adapted and complimentary.
Alone means to be isolated, exclusive, or in a solitary state. It is not necessary, however, to get married just so you won’t be alone. There are many married people who live in the same house, sleep in the same bed, yet no longer love each other, and no longer communicate. That in and of itself is a state of aloneness.
Just remember to examine your own motives regarding your choice to remain single or to have a mate. Whatever choice you make let God be the center of your decision, because you are the solution to a plan that God needs done in this earth realm. No one else can carry out your assignment.

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All across America school bells have rang, signaling the end of school. Summer camps, summer picnics, sitting around and chilling out has begun or is about to begin. If noone else is excited , I can hear the cheers from every student across the country. Parents, caregivers, guardians etc, you don’t get a break. Soon playtime will be over and it will be again be decision making time about school.

There’s a growing trend in this country toward homeschooling as an alternative to education for their children. Homeschooling does not mean that a child can stay out of school to play basketball all day, or text on the phone all day.  Homeschooling is a legal educational alternative in this country and the subject and use seems to have greater interest each year. There are home education laws to be followed, however, the amount of state involvement is minimal compared to the public educational school system. It is important to check with your local authorities to follow homeschool laws and requirements, as well as testing and record keeping requirements. Some states have stricter requirements on curriculum requirements than others.

Why do people choose to homeschool? According to the National Center for Educational Statistics (NCES) the reasons are many and varied based on the families needs. These are the major concern stated (not necessarily in the order of importance. 1. Concern about the school environment 2. Concern about drugs/violence and/or peer pressure 3. The quality of academic instruction 4. Increasing costs of (free) public schools 5. Desire for more moral/ and or religious/spiritual instruction.

A minimal amount of disadvantages have been cited to homeschooling. 1. Parents lack of confidence in their own ability to teach 2. Public and/or family criticism 3. Possible loss of income from the non working parent.

Then there’s the concern  about whether a child will “fit in with the real world after being homeschooled. Among other things competition and bullying are things generally learned at school. These things can be avoided in homeschooling. Adults who have been homeschooled have been reportd to have just as much success in the job market as those who were in public schools.

God ( the creator) creates children and places them in the care of parents. Our children are on loan to us, so what we do with them, to them, for them in terms of nurturing is critical. The first training a child gets is in the home and if we teach them the right things in the right way, though they may stray, they will usually reuturn to their basic teachings.

Each child is created with his/her own unique set of abilities and possibilities that need to be nurtured. Society may not always produce the kind of environment that encourages your child to experiment, learn and grow. As a responsible parent or gaurdian, you have to decide (based on investigative information), if homeschooling is right for you and your family.

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